Helping families with the unexpected loss of a child
The Ivy Barclay Foundation is committed to supporting parents and siblings who have lost a child to accidental death.
By providing guidance, community, and comfort, we want to make sure families experiencing the unthinkable don’t feel alone.
In Memory of Ivy
On the 27th of June 2021, we tragically lost our beautiful Ivy in an accident in our garden.
The shock, trauma, and grief we experienced (and continue to experience) cannot be described, and we faced the darkest time of our lives. In the immediate aftermath, while we had a lot of support from friends and the local community, we didn’t receive any official support from government bodies or other charities.
Because this tragedy happened in the midst of the COVID pandemic, our family in the UK were also unable to fly over to provide support.
It was then we realised there was a need for a foundation like ours, as while there is support for childhood deaths caused by illness, motor vehicle accidents, drowning or suicide, there is little to no support available for sudden, accidental deaths.
We didn’t want any other families to feel as alone and forgotten as we did following the awful day we lost our gorgeous girl.
And so we created the Ivy Barclay Foundation in Ivy’s memory – to help other families dealing with the unexpected loss of a child.
What We Do
The Ivy Barclay Foundation is dedicated to providing guidance to authorities on effectively supporting bereaved families, especially in cases of sudden death, considering the profound shock and the associated reactions that may arise.
Lobbying for Change
Currently, there is no funding in place for families who experience the sudden loss of a child. We are actively advocating for legislative changes to guarantee that families receive emotional, social, and financial support from both the Federal and State Governments.
These sessions are available to the immediate family and are ran by our certified practising counsellor.
Public Speaking & Education
Sarah Barclay, a business owner and mother of three, founded The Ivy Barclay Foundation in response to the loss of her child in 2021.
Sarah shares her personal journey through the unexpected loss of a child and the absence of emotional, social and financial assistance during this time.
The Ivy Barclay Foundation’s commitment is to support bereaved families, schools and employers.
To find out more information regarding booking Sarah as a guest speaker please get in touch.
Online Support Groups
We want to offer continued support to families through our online groups.
Grieving parents have very few places they can turn for effective, ongoing support.
These support groups, facilitated by our certified practising counsellor, will allow families to connect and share their stories, so they feel heard.
Retreats and Respite Accommodation
The Foundation’s future plan is to build a retreat for families to stay, connect and look at different therapies addressing grief and trauma holistically.
We would like to incorporate qualified professionals such as Grief Counsellors / Psychologists and Social workers.
This accommodation will also be offered as respite accommodation for families as well as host more specific camps such as camps for siblings.
The Ivy Barclay Foundation Charity Launch
The Ivy Barclay Foundation Charity Launch Event was held at Busselton Golf Club on the 28th January 2023.
Between 200 and 250 people attended and the night was an incredible success raising awareness and some much needed funds.
The night was run by our marvellous volunteers who served up a storm in the kitchen, all food was kindly donated by local businesses.
Laurissa Knowles compared the evening and the opening ceremony and welcome to country was conducted by Josh Whiteland of Koomal Dreaming.
Guest speakers included Libby Mettam, MLA member for Vasse – Leader of the Liberal party, as Patron of the charity and Mayor Grant Henley.
Everyone enjoyed lots of live entertainment, a DJ, as well as an enormous raffle and auction.
Busselton Golf Club
The charity Ambrose competition was held on the 22nd September 2023 at the Busselton Golf Club with 28 teams of 4 players participating.
The weather was perfect and everybody really enjoyed the day.
All monies raised will go into the care for and support of families following the unexpected loss of a child.
If you have an event coming up and you would like to support a worthy cause, please get in touch.
Ivy was very much immersed within our local community from a young age as a performing artist and a wildlife carer. Ivy also had many friends.
With Ivy’s sudden and unexpected passing we knew it would have left a whole community shocked and saddened.
With so many friends that never got a chance to say goodbye, and with Ivy’s funeral service a more intimate affair, it stood to reason that Ivy should be celebrated at a community party.
We were overwhelmed at the team effort that was made to pull off a huge party with some two to three hundred party guests.
It was thanks to the community that this happened, everyone rallied round with catering, entertainment and everything else in between.
As the sun began to set that evening all of the children scattered petals into the ocean to honour Ivy. The beach being a firm favourite of Ivy’s where she spent a lot of her childhood.
Odd Socks Day
Accidental death is the leading cause of death in children within Australia.
Here at The Ivy Barclay Foundation, we are hoping to be the change to support families in WA, and eventually throughout Australia, as there is nothing like Ivy’s charity in place anywhere in the country.
Losing a child is the single most traumatic event that can happen to a family, and the passing of a child suddenly and unexpectedly significantly adds to the trauma. The isolation that often follows can also be extremely detrimental. Surviving this trauma requires much support and takes time.
At The Ivy Barclay Foundation, we want to build a community whereby families have a voice and are heard, and more importantly supported.
Care packages and online support groups are some of the services the charity currently offers; future plans include establishing a retreat to provide families a place to meet other families going through similar circumstances, with an aim of addressing acute grief and trauma holistically. This retreat will also be offered as respite accommodation for families who simply need to get away.
Last year we held our first Odd Sock Day for The Ivy Barclay Foundation; it was a huge success that we really would like to make bigger in 2023.
Please join in our fundraising activity this year by donning your odd socks and making a gold coin donation to raise awareness and some much-needed funds.
The First Odd Socks Day – 2022
Ivy was renowned for wearing “odd socks”. Once Ivy passed, her fellow dance students at Leeuwin College of Performance wore “odd socks” to dance in honour of Ivy.
With this in mind, on Ivy’s first anniversary we asked members of the community to wear their odd socks.
Not only did this honour our beautiful girl but with the Foundation only just in its infancy, this raised awareness for the charity and what we intended to do.
This event turned into a fundraiser and we got quite a few businesses, childcare centers and schools on board and raised some much needed funds.
This was the charity’s first official fundraiser and we were overwhelmed at the community’s response. We have now made this a very special annual community event.
Grief has ripple effects that start from the individual but extend way beyond that, and experiencing a lack of emotional capacity is among the ripple effects of grief.
Parents can be physically exhausted and unable to keep up with their kids in the moment. The physical and emotional impact of grief can disrupt family routines and hinder a parent’s ability to socially engage or communicate with their children.
What Grieving Parents Need
Grieving parents need to make time to take care of themselves and get support. This can be difficult when you have children at home. One of the biggest challenge can be finding alone time to process each individual loss.
For a mum or dad who is grieving, we recommend that they take the steps to tend to their own grief. You can’t pour into someone’s cup until you fill your own cup.
Of course, just as there is no one right way to grieve, there isn’t one direct route to healing.
Experts share some tips on how to parent through the pain.